The Heart of the Matter

This is a really great song most recently (and brilliantly) recorded by india.arie - go listen to it if you can, and here are the (really cool and relevant for many) lyrics:

"The Heart of the Matter"
(written by Don Henley)

I got the call today I didn't wanna hear,
But I knew that it would come.
An old true friend of ours was talkin on the phone,
She said you found someone.
And I thought of all the bad luck,
and all the struggles we went through -
how I lost me,
and you lost you -
What are these voices outside love's open door
that make us throw off our contentment
and beg for something more?

I've been learning to live without you
But I miss you sometimes.
The more I know, the less I understand
All the things I thought I knew, I'm learning again
I've been tryin to get down to the heart of the matter,
but my will gets weak and my thoughts seem to scatter
but I think it's about forgiveness
(forgiveness)
even if you don't love me anymore.

These times are so uncertain, there's a yearning undefined
and people filled with rage.
We all need a little tenderness,
but how can love survive in such a graceless age?
And the trust and self-assurance that lead to happiness
are the very things we kill, I guess.
Pride and competition cannot fill these empty arms
and the world they put between us, you know it doesn't keep us warm

I've been trying to live without you now,
but I miss you, baby
The more I know, the less I understand
and all the things I thought I'd figured out
I have to learn again
I've been trying to get down to the heart of the matter
but my will gets weak and my heart is so shattered
but I think it's about forgiveness
(forgiveness)
even if you don't love me anymore.

There are people in your life who've come and gone,
they've let you down, they've hurt your pride.
You have to put it all behind you,
cause life goes on...
you can't keep carrying that anger, it'll eat you up inside

I've been tryin' to get down to the heart of the matter
but the flesh will get weak, and the ashes will scatter
so I'm thinking about forgiveness
forgiveness
even if you don't love me anymore